With sweaty palms and a racing heart, you wait. With fidgeting feet and a silent, fixed gaze, you wait. That moment which you have been holding your breath for has finally arrived. The news could be exciting or all together horrifying. Yet, in the unknown places you remain—simply waiting to hear—if it’s terminal.
The term “terminal” is often associated with life threatening diseases, but I dare argue that such a term is also fitting in the midst of major life change. As a military wife of nearly a decade, such feelings surface deep within the soul on the cusp of yet another move. The location ahead may be thrilling. The description of life ahead may bring a smile to one’s face as many happy days can be seen ahead. Yet, even still, there comes a time when one must then say good-bye to the present reality around them.
For however long, the military family has prayed, toiled and bent over backwards to quickly establish roots for their children and help to soften the blow of yet another transition. Whether that move is across America or across foreign seas is irrelevant. The feeling of deep loss and ache of leaving cannot easily be pushed aside or smiled away. No, this location, these beloved friends, this current route to the grocery store or favorite park—are all now seen through the eyes of impending good-bye. And as this seeps into the hearts of friends and colleagues, the military family watches as others begin to naturally pull away—as this reality is indeed unfolding and the pain is felt on all sides.
Often times, it is in the darkest places that a military family will find themselves feels utterly alone—away from family and their closest confidants they wait. Time zones, zip codes and other such differences make it challenging to keep in touch with those dearly loved in previous locations. Yet, the God who made them—sees them. Right where they are—God Almighty sees them. In the midst of the sorrow of terminal change of location, friends, church and more—God has not moved. God has not changed. And praise God, He cares and His name is JESUS CHRIST.
“ 24“No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and wealth.
25“For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26“Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? 27“And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life? 28“And why are you worried about clothing? Observe how the lilies of the field grow; they do not toil nor do they spin, 29yet I say to you that not even Solomon in all his glory clothed himself like one of these. 30“But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more clothe you? You of little faith! 31“Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing?’ 32“For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. 33“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
34“So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:24-34 (NASB)
At the end of the day, at the beginning of the day and every moment around the clock—God sees our situation and knows what is best for our life (Psalm 32:8). When the sorrow and pain of change grip your heart, cling to the truth of Scripture that Jesus Christ is near to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). When you feel without direction and are unsure what to do next, press into God and do His will (Psalm 119:9-16). When you feel faint with the weight of unknowns and weeping children, cry out to the God who cares and will one day dry every tear (Revelation 21:3-4). May I encourage each one reading to wait; not on a diagnosis…not on word of a next assignment…but to WAIT UPON THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. For it is written:
“26Lift up your eyes on high
And see who has created these stars,
The One who leads forth their host by number,
He calls them all by name;
Because of the greatness of His might and the strength of His power,
Not one of them is missing.
27Why do you say, O Jacob, and assert, O Israel,
“My way is hidden from the LORD,
And the justice due me escapes the notice of my God”?
28Do you not know? Have you not heard?
The Everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth
Does not become weary or tired.
His understanding is inscrutable.
29He gives strength to the weary,
And to him who lacks might He increases power.
30Though youths grow weary and tired,
And vigorous young men stumble badly,
31Yet those who wait for the LORD
Will gain new strength;
They will mount up with wings like eagles,
They will run and not get tired,
They will walk and not become weary.” Isaiah 40: 26-31 (NASB)
As we approach Memorial Day and remember all those who have sacrificed and served, may I challenge us all to pray for Jesus Christ to strengthen and protect military families. And the next time you interact with a service member and their family, may I suggest a little extra grace, a little extra understanding and a lot of extra prayer for those who are continually living in a place of uprooting, planting and serving within a given community—for your safety and for mine. God bless all who serve—both in uniform and those holding down “the home front”.
“2Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, 3knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. 4And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
5But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind. 7For that man ought not to expect that he will receive anything from the Lord, 8being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.” James 1:2-8 (NASB)
I don’t know if you are a gardener or not, but my husband is a born natural. He can grow anything in any climate; while I can hardly seem to keep a fake plant alive! Haha
This current growing season, he has grown sunflowers, tomatoes, corn and even dill (each over 4 feet tall)! But, above the mint, the peppers, the colorful zinnias and the California poppies, there has been one plant that has grabbed my attention most of all; the cucumber vine.
What starts as a tiny seed, soon sprouts into a lovely green aspiration of two green leaves. From there, with sunlight and water, the plant continues to grow. And with cucumbers, a trellis of some sort soon needs to be constructed for them to climb onto. At the stage of the seed and even the small aspiring sprout, the tall trellis looks ridiculously too high for such a tiny thing to ever grow into! Yet, a number of weeks after the initial planting, these vines have climbed all the way to the top and are about to climb OVER the trellis!
It reminds me of a small seed spoken of in the Bible; the tiny mustard seed (Matthew 17:20). Although small, it can grow into a bush as big as a small house! That’s amazing! And to think that it all started from an itty bitty seed. God is amazing and His creation points to the goodness of God to make a way where there seems to be no way.
John 15:5…Jesus says, “I am the vine, you are the branches…apart from Me, you can do nothing…”
If you feel as though you are just stuck…and simply not going anywhere in life–look to the vine of Jesus Christ. If you have accepted Jesus Christ and you honestly see how you have walked away from Him—confess your heart to Him and reconnect to the vine. If you do not know Jesus, may you have the sincere privilege of getting to know the God who LOVES YOU SO…right here and right now. Ladies, may we realize that our power doesn’t come from cleaning our closets, having the tightest tummies or even knowing the most Bible verses—nope. TRUE and ETERNAL power comes from the one and only living and eternal God. We have access to Him through His Son, Jesus Christ, and when we accept Him as our personal Lord and leader of our lives (believing that He died and rose from the grave on the third day)…you will be saved!
And it is at that point, that very moment that you call out to Jesus Christ to take your life and take over, that you are given the power source of life—the Holy Spirit of God. A person can go through all the motions, but POWER comes from the Holy Spirit of God—and you can access this eternal and personal power of God through coming to Jesus Christ this very night. Pray the following if you want to throw away all other attempts of securing power in this life—and confessing that nothing else has brought lasting joy…not people, not places, not things.
Prayer of Salvation and Rededication:
Dear Lord Jesus, I have screwed up—again and again. I want to have power that this world cannot supply. I want to have right standing before Almighty God. I do not have the power to purchase this, negotiate this, or even take it wrongfully. I simply must ask You for it. I confess that I am a sinner—I have screwed up and have hurt people…not forgiven people…taken revenge on people—and I am wrong for this. You are God and I am not. I have proved it over and over again in my life. I am tired of feeling POWERLESS against desires to need to always satisfy my own wants and continually feeling empty inside. I turn away from all other things I have tried to gain power, place and prestige in the eyes of God. I believe that You are who You say You are, Jesus—the One and only Son of the Living God. I believe that You lived a perfect life to ransom and redeem me from my captivity to my sin. I believe that You rose from the dead on the third day to offer eternal life to all who call upon Your name. And right now, as I read this, I am calling upon Your name. Save me from myself, Jesus. Please forgive me. I need You in every area of my life—for every second of my life. Please come into my soul, right now, and take over…guide me through the Holy Spirit in how to act, think and react to the situations and people in my life. Give me the power to do what would honor You in each situation. I want to live for You, Jesus. I’m all in. Thank You for coming into my soul and for power-washing me from all my sin. It’s in the name of MY SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST that I pray, amen.
Regardless of our endeavors today, may we keep this in mind as we remember that God is GROWING US through the lessons we learn each day (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18) and even the challenges along the way (James 1:2-4)!
As Easter this year is still quite a ways off, may we begin NOW to prepare our hearts and minds for the victory celebration of Jesus conquering the grave. Death could not hold Him; it had no claim on Him (Romans 6:9). He was perfect in every way (Hebrews 7:26-28). Tempted as we each are, yet He never once gave into it (Hebrews 4:15). Thus, when He took the punishment of all humanity upon His shoulders as He was nailed to the cross—for my shame, for your shame—He endured it out of His loyal love for all (Matthew 27:33-56). As Jesus explained to Peter just hours previous in the Garden of Gethsemane as Judas, the disciple who betrayed Jesus, brought the religious leaders and temple guards to arrest Jesus:
“51And behold, one of those who were with Jesus reached and drew out his sword, and struck the slave of the high priest and cut off his ear. 52Then Jesus said to him, “Put your sword back into its place; for all those who take up the sword shall perish by the sword. 53“Or do you think that I cannot appeal to My Father, and He will at once put at My disposal more than twelve legions of angels?54“How then will the Scriptures be fulfilled, which say that it must happen this way?”
55At that time Jesus said to the crowds, “Have you come out with swords and clubs to arrest Me as you would against a robber? Every day I used to sit in the temple teaching and you did not seize Me. 56“But all this has taken place to fulfill the Scriptures of the prophets.” Then all the disciples left Him and fled.”
Matthew 26:51-56 (NASB)
In a Christian culture that is beginning to find very little, if any, room for suffering in the modern age—may we look to the example of our Risen Lord Jesus. In a day and age where it is more common to look for ways to receive blessing, rather than give it away—may we look to the example of our Risen Lord Jesus. For a Christian by name means “little Christ”. May we remember the words of Jesus:
“20“Remember the word that I said to you, ‘A slave is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted Me, they will also persecute you; if they kept My word, they will keep yours also. 21“But all these things they will do to you for My name’s sake, because they do not know the One who sent Me. 22“If I had not come and spoken to them, they would not have sin, but now they have no excuse for their sin. 23“He who hates Me hates My Father also. 24“If I had not done among them the works which no one else did, they would not have sin; but now they have both seen and hated Me and My Father as well. 25“But they have done this to fulfill the word that is written in their Law, ‘THEY HATED ME WITHOUT A CAUSE.’
26“When the Helper comes, whom I will send to you from the Father, that is the Spirit of truth who proceeds from the Father, He will testify about Me, 27and you will testify also, because you have been with Me from the beginning.” John 15:20-27 (NASB)
Christian church, may we be bold in our witness for Jesus Christ, regardless of our life circumstances. Why? Because Jesus Christ assures us confidently in John 16:33 that sufferings and troubles in this life WILL COME, but to take heart seeing as He has in fact overcome the world. Thank Jesus for His love, His grace and His direction over your life as a believer today. And if you have never actually placed your eternal salvation into the saving reality of Jesus, this is your moment.
You simply pray, LORD JESUS I am a sinner. I have screwed up in this life and have come to find that I cannot be perfect on my own. But, I believe that You are. And that You paid the price of death on a cross for me. Please forgive me of my wrong doings, my offenses and my rebellion against You. I turn away from any other way that I have been relying upon for eternal life. I’m all in, Jesus. I want to only follow You. Please come into my heart and take over my life. Thank You for Your forgiveness. Thank You for Your mercy. Thank You for Your grace. Help me to live for You each day, MY LORD JESUS CHRIST. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.
“For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline. Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony of our Lord or of me His prisoner, but join with me in suffering for the gospel according to the power of God, who has saved us and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to His own purpose and grace which was granted us in Christ Jesus from all eternity, but now has been revealed by the appearing of our Savior Christ Jesus, who abolished death and brought life and immortality to light through the gospel,” 2 Timothy 1:7-10 (NASB)